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Getting started is often the hardest part. In physics, this is called inertia. Inertia is effectively resistance. The resistance of an object to change its state of motion. In everyday life, it is the tendency we all feel to do nothing or to remain unchanged. Just like trying to negotiate a heavy shopping trolly around a busy store, it takes some serious effort to get moving or change direction. It’s even harder if that shopping trolly has a dodgy wheel. The same is true for us.

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I once worked with a church that spent a lot of time talking about the ‘culture’ they wanted to create. It is an important conversation. However, they were discussing it as if they were starting from a blank slate. Eventually, I suggested we take a couple of months to investigate, observe, and try to articulate the current culture of the church. You see, there is no such thing as an organisation without a culture. It may not have been explicitly set, cultivated, or articulated but it’s there. Some of the values they wanted to encourage were already evident within the…

Don’t be a passanger in the battle for who you are becoming

In case you haven’t realised, you don’t just get to be who you want to be. It requires work. You have to build yourself into someone capable, trustworthy, and free. Building who you want to be is simple but not easy. By paying attention and cultivating the good and desirable elements of our character and depriving those which are less desirable we begin to move in the correct direct. This, however, takes constant vigilance and deliberate action.

James Clear, in his excellent ‘Atomic Habits’, calls this voting. In trying to improve ones life and move towards where and who we…

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Many of us will be particularly glad to see the back of 2020. January 1st always offers the chance of a new start, of possibility and hope.

The new year is a time of reimagining ourselves. People flock back to the gym, instruments are dusted off, journals are sold en mass, even the coronavirus has reinvented itself in time of the new year. New Year, New Me is an intoxicating mantra. We all have things in ourselves and in our lives we wish could be different, better. The harsh reality is, these improvements are often short lived. …

Have you ever felt called to do something? Excited and hopeful, you’ve stepped out, left something behind and taken a leap of faith for it only to end in despair. This is where Peter is. Peter had left the security of his net, his way of making a living to follow Jesus. He left it all. Went all in and now he has to return to his home, his work. He was called to a higher way. And now he’s nowhere. You know that feeling? You gave yourself to something or someone only to have it seemly fail. Sacrificed a…

As Nietzsche’s Madman put it, God is dead and we have killed him. So what happens now? ‘Holy Saturday, the day most of us live most our lives — somewhere between “Dear God” and “Amen”’ — Pete Grieg We live in-between. In the gap. The gap in-between who we are and who we are becoming. The gap in-between where we have been and where we are going. The gap in-between death and new life. The gap in-between what was and what will be. Learning to live in the gap is perhaps one of the most important things in life. That…

The Easter story is so rich in meaning and implication, an entire lifetime is not enough to fully comprehend what happened and what it means. Attempting to find meaning in it is a momentous but worthwhile pursuit. I am not claiming to understand even the smallest fraction of what happened that weekend. I am simply attempting to articulate some of my personal avenues of investigation. I hope that something in them provokes a response that gives you a jumping off point for your own reflection. I think that we have largely lost the art of mystery. The cross is, and…

Demonstrating hope, kindnesss, and courage in the darkest of days

Dietrich & Sabine 1939

Today, April 9 2020, marks the 75th anniversary of the death of Dietrich Bonhoeffer; it also happens to be Maundy Thursday. Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a German Pastor and Theologian who was executed for his role in conspiring against Hitler and the Nazis during World War II. Over Easter we take time to remember the last week of Jesus’ life before he was executed. However, it can be easy to forget that since then, it is estimated, that there have been over 69 million souls killed because of their faith. Bonhoeffer died as Jesus died; completely surrendered to the will of…

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We seem to need so much money in England. Now, I understand that it is not feasible to live on €4 a day in this country; not just because we don’t use euros but operate on the good ole Great British Pound.

Anyway… we just don’t need as much money as we think.

Firstly, there are probably hundreds of pounds sitting in your house in unused gadgets, toys, clothes, equipment, etc. When was the last time you used that…

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In September, about 18 months after we had been reunited with all of our stuff, we began to purge. We played the ‘Minimalism Game’. The game takes a month and involves getting rid of a number of items each day. One on day one. Two on day two. Etc, etc until you get to 30 on day 30. By the end of a 30-day month, you have sold, donated, recycled, or thrown away almost 500 things.

At first, Ellen was reluctantly on board. I could try it but should stick…

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